Baby

I missed posting yesterday because my wife was having contraction and we had to rush to the hospital. I am realy wishing more people would join.

Stress

There is also a huge emotional aspect to the pain. For example, my doc is telling me that pretty much the only way to correct my back is back surgery, but he recommends me waiting until and cant even stand or walk at all, that way if something went wrong then it would not be a big deal because I could not walk or stand up anyways. Now I understand his concern but here is my situation, I am 21 to start so there is so much I am missing out on right now. I had gotten married right before all this started getting so bad, and now we have a baby due on the 24th of this month. I have ran through all my life's savings, I have been working on peoples farms since I was 14 or 15, and had around $15,000 and a car that was fully paid for. When I first started hurting I thought it was ok because of all my savings but now the savings are totally gone. I have around $13,000 in medical bills,
that number is not even counting what my insurance paid. Me and my wife have had to move back in with my family because we could not afford rent anymore. So now I have my wife living at my familys house, a baby due a week from today, all the bills, but no money coming in. It gets me very down alot of times, making me feel like such a bum. My wife and my family are very supportive but it still gets me down and makes me think that my wife deserves better and more than what I can provide for her. No one tells you about these feelings and sometimes I think this feeling is worse than the pain. Does anyone feel the same way? Does it get easier with time?
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Members

We have a follower now. And i agree with them, doctors do not take enough people serous about the pains and just think anyone saying there back hurts are just looking for pain pills. I have had doctors tell me that since my backs not broken, that there is nothing wrong with me and that they are not going to give me any pain pills. Ok for one something was wrong with my back and for two I do not want pain pills. yes alot of times the pain is so bad ill need a pain pill but i want the issue fixed, not just covered up by an addictive pill. I have had many doctors who try to refer me to pain clinics and I refuse to go. Most pain clinics are just legal drug dealers. Im not trying to offend anyone and not all pain clinics are this way but the ones here where I am at are. The have been busted 3 times for writing prescriptions for patients who used fake names and the clinic did not ask for a drivers license, social security card, or any form of identification. with this being said there are good doctors out there who actually care about people and want whats best and not just a quick fix. I had popped my leg out of socket when I fell down out of my bed because of my back, and the doctors here took x-rays and said nothing was broke and that i did not pop it out of socket. After about 3 weeks of not being able to walk I decided to go to a different Doc who took a MRI and said that there was no way possible to not know it was out of socket. He said this even after looking at just the x-ray the first doctor took. So some doctors are careless. the good doctors are far and few between but you will be so glad when you do find one who cares.

Emotional Aspect Of Back Or Chronic Pain.

I have read and found information in many books stating that people with back or chronic pain are 4 times more likely to suffer from emotional distress than people who do not have the pain. I found this very interesting. I have noticed ( my wife and family noticed this also) my moods changing, not feeling like getting up to try and do anything, and most of all, just not feeling like myself. It almost seems like im in a bad dream or something. I used to be very active all through high school, I was a starter for our varsity basketball team, and baseball team. To go from being able to move with out pain to now not being able to move without hurting is depressing in my opinion. When it first started i gained a bunch of weight going from playing so many sports to not doing really anything active all day. As I started to feel worse and worse and now it seems like the depression has gotten larger and more overwhelming I am in no mood to eat and I have lost alot of weight. I went from 190 in high school to about 230 when the pain and depression started, and now I only weigh 147. I am 6'2 so im underweight. I dont think too many doctors or most people even understand how much of an emotional toll it puts on you. My family has been there for me and listen to my thoughts but it is not that same as someone who is going through or have already gone through. I know there has to be more people out there like me and in the same boat, and that is why i made this blog. We all need someone to lean on from time to time and it is alot more helpfull if you can lean on someone who knows what it is like. With that being said please join and post. Is there anyone else that feels the same way as I do or is it just me? If you do not feel the same way, then how dose it make you feel?

Members

Well no one has seemed to join yet. I encourage every one who is going through or has went through Chronic pain or back surgery to please join and share and it will help alot of people out. For example, I am currently debating back surgery but I do not know anyone who has went through it. It would be very helpful to talk to someone who went through because I have alot of questions, Did it make you stop hurting as bad? How long did it take you to recover? and so on.

Hello

Hello and welcome to my blog. As you can tell from the title this blog is concerning chronic pain that people go through every day. The reason I am starting this blog is because I have chronic pain in my back, and after trying to talk with so many people about my pain, no one seems to understand how bad it can hurt and how it hurts unless they have or had the pain as well. Even though this blog is for a form of support I am also encouraging anyone on here to share how they deal with the pain, ways they get the pain to ease up ( if there is anyway depending on type of pain and severity). I have 7 bulging discs on my spine and several discs that are deteriorating. I am 21 years old. This is another fact that makes me upset, most doctors did not or would not take me serious at first and just told me I am too young for any back problems and it was just growing pains, Now we know they were all wrong. So please feel free to join this blog and speak your mind. I think it helps me alot to be able to talk to others that are in the same boat as me. One thing that was helping my back before the bulges got as bad as they are now was BIOFREEZE Pain Relieving Roll On, 3-Ounce Tube . I would advise anyone to try it as it did seem to provide some relief for me. Thank you for ready and im looking forward to hearing from everyone.